ASUKA:“No one needs a pilot who can't control her Eva!”
REI (OFF):“So, you're seeking to find yourself in others.”
ASUKA:“Shut up!”
midoriyoh: So, you're seeking to find yourself in others.” - something to this effect was said to Shinji already in Episode 16 Cut 204. The fundamental error both Asuka and Shinji make is that they conflate their actual selves with "selves in other people's minds" and therefore, the high or low opinion of other people about those "selves in others' minds" becomes for Asuka and Shinji the measure of their actual selves' worth. Since those "selves in other people's minds" are always out of one's control, anxiety, need for approval and inability to accept oneself follow.
