Dream: I wonder if Shinji was secretly trying to get Misato to be warm and gentle to him (he never had a mother after all), or he was secretly hoping she would reassure his feelings towars his father, whichever they might be? But i'm pretty sure that he didn't expect the answer he got, so much for a subtle/sneaky approach.
Kendrix: He certainly is. That's something he does, try and look like a victim so people will "hug him". It's not really a willful deception or anything, but something he does need to get called out on. See here.